Marriage Counsellor In Calgary
When your marriage hits a trouble spot, marriage counsellors can help you and your partner identify the sources of conflict in your relationship and the struggles your partnership faces. Marriage counselling involves open and honest discussion of the relationship. Such discussion takes considerable courage, but under the guidance of a marriage counsellor most every marriage can become fulfilling and satisfying once again.
I have been trained as a Marriage & Family Therapy, receiving a Masters of Arts degree from NABS (now called Sioux Falls Seminary) in 1993 and a Bachelor of Arts degree from the University of Alberta in 1988. As a Calgary marriage counsellor, I can work together with you to help revitalize your marriage and help you create a process to overcome your difficulties.
Through marriage counselling, we will uncover the source of the relationship distress and address both the personal symptoms and relational conflicts that hinder the relationship from being satisfying.
Lotus Marriage Counselling Approach:
When our relationships become dissatisfying, we tend to take on one of three projects:
- We try to change our partner to become the person who can make us happy,
- We try to change ourselves to get our partner back to take care of our needs, or
- We give up and start looking around for another partner.
Projects one and two will inevitably fail to deliver success in the long term.
The goal of good marriage counselling is to help each person become the primary caretaker of those painful, vulnerable, "hurt parts" of themselves. Once we learn how to care for ourselves, our partner is freed from the burden of being the designated redeemer, the "answer", and saviour of one's pain.
Being freed from those saviour-like responsibilities, each partner is able to communicate their interior feelings with freedom and compassion, without the tag on messages of "you are to blame for my feelings/ it's your fault I feel this way/ it's your job to make me happy." Without those powerful negative messages, each individual is able to more effectively care for their partner and true intimacy will flourish.
As your Calgary marriage counsellor, I will take you on an inner journey of exploration and healing. I encourage marriage partners to take a "You-turn," to look inward to the source of their pain, vulnerability, and emptiness. I believe this is the most effective way to achieve satisfying, healthy relationships.
