Couples Counselling In Calgary
No relationship is perfect. The fact is that all relationships both married and unmarried eventually encounter conflict or misunderstanding. A distressed relationship or marriage can lead to sadness, anger, high tension, stress and depression.
But as long as there is a willingness to work on improving a partnership, most every relationship can become satisfying and fulfilling again with the help of couples counselling. Even those in solid partnerships often find couples counselling beneficial for improving their relationships and communication.
Lotus Couples Counselling Approach:
When our relationships become dissatisfying, we tend to take on one of three projects:
- We try to change our partner to become the person who can make us happy,
- We try to change ourselves to get our partner back to take care of our needs, or
- We give up and start looking around for another partner.
Projects one and two will inevitably fail to deliver success in the long term.
The goal of good couple's counselling is to help each person become the primary caretaker of those painful, vulnerable, "hurt parts" of themselves. Once we learn how to care for ourselves, our partner is freed from the burden of being the designated redeemer, the "answer", and saviour of one's pain.
Being freed from those saviour-like responsibilities, each partner is able to communicate their interior feelings with freedom and compassion, without the tag on messages of "you are to blame for my feelings/ it's your fault I feel this way/ it's your job to make me happy." Without those powerful negative messages, each individual is able to more effectively care for their partner and true intimacy will flourish.
The Calgary couples counselling I offer will take you on an inner journey of exploration and healing. I encourage couples to take a "You-turn," to look inward to the source of their pain, vulnerability, and emptiness. I believe this is the most effective way to achieve satisfying, healthy relationships.
